Several Days in the Life of THIS Single Mom

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“Rumor has it” the only thing you can control about a situation is your attitude towards it. I know I’ve said this to many people who were going through tough times, but it seems to be harder to practice what you preach when you’re the one going through it.

Soooooo, I am going to share my “situation” and maybe someone can enlighten me on how to have a better attitude.

*I will preface with:

I am VERY grateful for all of the blessings I do have: healthy children, roof over my head, food to eat, and a handful of people who TRULY care about me. Please don’t lecture me on “shit happens to everyone, deal with it”. I have tried and determined I cannot do this alone anymore. So, if anyone has any advice, feedback, leads to help me, I would really appreciate.

The first 7 months of 2016 have royally sucked. Yes, there was the occasional “YAY something awesome happened”, but the bad has definitely outweighed the good. I NEED HELP turning this around.

All of the following things happened either in a row or in some cases, at the same time. All of which I am trying to solve on my own ~ meaning the co-parent (my ex) simply says “keep me posted” and goes back to dealing with himself.

In no particular order….

  1. Ex lost his job. Twice. Which means no child support payments.
  2. His visit with kids decreased (actually that started last Fall when he was evicted from his apartment).
  3. We were dropped from health insurance because they claim they didn’t receive updated paperwork in time.
  4. Issues at school, at different times, with all three kids.
  5. I was demoted and took a $600/month pay cut
  6. Dropped my laptop and shattered the screen. Cost $350 for a new one.
  7. Red light ticket $100.
  8. Broke something in my car which cost over $100 to fix.
  9. One of my kids was diagnosed with ADHD ~ no insurance for prescription. Although, I am not a huge fan of meds for that anyway.
  10. I’ve been busting my a$$ making, listing, and promoting stuff in my Etsy shop, and nothing. No sales.
  11. Other than a couple of awesome friends who made it to the craft fair where I had a table setup, the event ended up being a bust. The bad weather kept people away.
  12. The first of two school registration days was last Thursday. The second is next Thursday and I am so full of anxiety. There are FOUR different school supply lists I need to purchase from and I don’t have the money. I am beyond broke.
  13. Fire in basement apartment the night before EASTER. Landlords fixed and rented out that apartment. Meanwhile, the other five tenants have been living with broken doors (because the firemen needed to get into each unit) for FOUR months.
  14. Landlady wants to raise my rent because the kids threw out the trash wrong. Partially my fault, didn’t break down boxes, but I think it’s because of the fire and she is trying to recoup the cost of fixing the basement apartment.
  15. I want to move, but can’t find anything affordable or a listing that doesn’t say “quiet” or “minimum credit score 650”. My credit is nowhere near that. Lease expires in Sept.
  16. Not looking forward to starting the school year. At all. Sorry, I know there are a bunch of people in my circle of friends who can’t wait to send their kids back to school. I am not one of them. Not only because I don’t want to set an alarm again or deal with “drama” that wasn’t resolved before the end of last year or because the kids and I didn’t get to have any fun this summer because I am broke, BUT also because if I end up moving to a different district, I don’t want to pay registration fees twice.

There is more, but I think you get it. Plus, I can’t remember anymore.

So, how would YOU fix your bad attitude if all of the above happened to you/your family within an 7-month time frame?


  1. Well, for school supplies check with your school. They typically have backpacks filled with school supplies for those in need. Apply for free/reduced school lunches.

    See if you can visit a low income health clinic. Your kids will still get the care they need. Talk to your church, if you attend one. See if they have one time or temporary financial help. I know when I was a single mom, I had a deacon who went to our church leaders when my son needed eye glasses, and they totally paid for it.

    Call around to places that give assistance and see how your family can be helped.

    I hope you’re able to get out of this rut!

  2. I am so sorry to hear that all of this is being dumped on you all at once. It definitely sounds like a whole lot for any one person to bear.

    Not sure if you have tried Twitter parties, but they are a great way to win products, gift cards and more.

    Have you tried reaching out to some brand, especially ones that you can partner up with in exchange for back to school supplies?

    I am sending you lots of positive thoughts and vibes for things to get better quickly.

    • bella0421 says:

      Thanks for your input! Twitter parties are a little overwhelming for me. They move so fast and I end up getting lost. I haven’t tried pitching any brands yet, but I will.

  3. Realistically – I’d call my mom. I’d cry a bunch. And then I’d pray hard for help emotionally and physically.
    And then I’d put a smile on and pretend to everyone that everything was ok.
    There are resources out there though. Do an online search, and you should be able to find something to help with rent and school supplies until you can get back on your feet.

  4. Thanks so much for sharing this information, I am sending you so many positive thoughts and for all the things to get better quickly.

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