“Rumor has it” the only thing you can control about a situation is your attitude towards it. I know I’ve said this to many people who were going through tough times, but it seems to be harder to practice what you preach when you’re the one going through it.
Soooooo, I am going to share my “situation” and maybe someone can enlighten me on how to have a better attitude.
*I will preface with:
I am VERY grateful for all of the blessings I do have: healthy children, roof over my head, food to eat, and a handful of people who TRULY care about me. Please don’t lecture me on “shit happens to everyone, deal with it”. I have tried and determined I cannot do this alone anymore. So, if anyone has any advice, feedback, leads to help me, I would really appreciate.
The first 7 months of 2016 have royally sucked. Yes, there was the occasional “YAY something awesome happened”, but the bad has definitely outweighed the good. I NEED HELP turning this around.
All of the following things happened either in a row or in some cases, at the same time. All of which I am trying to solve on my own ~ meaning the co-parent (my ex) simply says “keep me posted” and goes back to dealing with himself.
In no particular order….
- Ex lost his job. Twice. Which means no child support payments.
- His visit with kids decreased (actually that started last Fall when he was evicted from his apartment).
- We were dropped from health insurance because they claim they didn’t receive updated paperwork in time.
- Issues at school, at different times, with all three kids.
- I was demoted and took a $600/month pay cut
- Dropped my laptop and shattered the screen. Cost $350 for a new one.
- Red light ticket $100.
- Broke something in my car which cost over $100 to fix.
- One of my kids was diagnosed with ADHD ~ no insurance for prescription. Although, I am not a huge fan of meds for that anyway.
- I’ve been busting my a$$ making, listing, and promoting stuff in my Etsy shop, and nothing. No sales.
- Other than a couple of awesome friends who made it to the craft fair where I had a table setup, the event ended up being a bust. The bad weather kept people away.
- The first of two school registration days was last Thursday. The second is next Thursday and I am so full of anxiety. There are FOUR different school supply lists I need to purchase from and I don’t have the money. I am beyond broke.
- Fire in basement apartment the night before EASTER. Landlords fixed and rented out that apartment. Meanwhile, the other five tenants have been living with broken doors (because the firemen needed to get into each unit) for FOUR months.
- Landlady wants to raise my rent because the kids threw out the trash wrong. Partially my fault, didn’t break down boxes, but I think it’s because of the fire and she is trying to recoup the cost of fixing the basement apartment.
- I want to move, but can’t find anything affordable or a listing that doesn’t say “quiet” or “minimum credit score 650”. My credit is nowhere near that. Lease expires in Sept.
- Not looking forward to starting the school year. At all. Sorry, I know there are a bunch of people in my circle of friends who can’t wait to send their kids back to school. I am not one of them. Not only because I don’t want to set an alarm again or deal with “drama” that wasn’t resolved before the end of last year or because the kids and I didn’t get to have any fun this summer because I am broke, BUT also because if I end up moving to a different district, I don’t want to pay registration fees twice.
There is more, but I think you get it. Plus, I can’t remember anymore.
So, how would YOU fix your bad attitude if all of the above happened to you/your family within an 7-month time frame?